Weekend Couples: A New Kind Of Relationships
We are not talking about those romantic getaways that are made as a couple on weekends and serve to disconnect. Neither of those that are created for 48 hours and then disappear. We are talking about weekend couples, those who only see each other on Saturdays and Sundays. But living like a permanent honeymoon, does it really work?
Normally, the people who train them are at the peak of their professional careers. They are usually between 25 and 35 years old and travel frequently. Not having too much time on weekdays to dedicate to their partner, they decide to meet their partner during the weekend.
The reward of a daily sacrifice
Many relationships fail because of distance. By not renewing passion and affection continuously, the kilometers end up taking a toll. But this would not be a problem for those relationships that keep the flame of their love alive, at least during the weekend. They know that those two days are by and for them. And they serve as a reward for hard days of work.
In addition, they miss each other for many days, so Saturday and Sunday they really want to see each other. That makes his infatuation phase lengthen. In other words, seeing each other less frequently makes each time they meet each other feel like it is the first time. It would be a kind of constant crush that highlights the positive aspects of the relationship.
Another of its advantages is that, having so little time to share with the other, each one gives the best of himself during those times. Therefore, they do not usually waste time in absurd discussions. They tackle conflicts, to make the most of the time. In turn, this allows each to focus on what the other brings and their qualities.
Cons are also plentiful in weekend couples
We have emphasized before that physical distance is one of the great challenges of any courtship or marriage. Weekend couples can also be victims of it. The insecurity that is created without daily contact can generate doubts and jealousy towards the other. This, fed on a daily basis, can become a reason for rupture and even infidelity.
On the other hand, reliving that love every weekend does not mean that the relationship is moving forward. This way of seeing each other can stagnate the relationship. It seems as if both are comfortable with the situation and neither intends to step forward.
It is a feeling of helplessness and conformity in equal measure. A feeling of living in a spiral can be generated out of frustration, impatience and even boredom.
The more durable, the stronger
Although quantity may not be synonymous with quality, in this case, it appears to be. The longer a couple has been in a relationship, the stronger their bonds and foundation will be. Because of this, a relationship is less likely to break down because of distance, the longer you’ve been together.
For example, let’s take the case of a relationship of years in which one of the members must go to work temporarily in another country. The distance can even stiffen the ties between them. He puts it to the test and, if it goes well, it becomes another pillar of it.
On the contrary, if the relationship has only been forging a few months, there is a high probability that there is not enough commitment to maintain it.
Do you know if they are compatible?
Weekend couples live together for a few hours. Saturday and Sunday share bed, meals and time. But, is it comparable to the day-to-day life of a couple who live in the same house and have to face shared responsibilities?
This type of sporadic encounters does not allow us to know how the other performs household chores. Nor how does he react when something bothers him, what hobbies he has, what he likes to do when he gets home or how he cooks. It is a somewhat superficial relationship. Some of these details may be glimpsed, but it is not the same.
Secrets of success as a couple
In any case, weekend couples are a reality. No one can determine the duration of a relationship based on how they have met or what the parameters of it are. Only the members of the couple relationship know what is cooking in their lives.
However, there are certain characteristics that occur in all successful couples. Some of them are, for example, admiration, mutual respect and the absence of codependency. In addition, the expectations of both have to be realistic and based on a choice: to love the other.
Of course, the basis has to be communication and trust. You have to be able to talk about everything and express each one’s point of view, without fear of being judged or rejected. Couples go through beautiful and happy moments, but when the hardest come, they must be able to tell each other as they believe.
All these characteristics can be perfectly present in weekend couples. You only have to put on the table what each one can contribute to the other, how they live that relationship, how distance affects it and if the situation makes them happy.
If you both hit it off, then it can be a very healthy and long-lasting relationship!
