Sincerity And Sincericide, What Is The Difference?

Is it good to always tell the whole truth? Is the sincerity of people really valued? When do we speak of sincerity and when do we speak of sincericide? Talking about sincericide means telling the truth without prudence, without limits, without taking into account what the other feels or wants.  In short, it could be said that sincerity applied without intelligence can cause unnecessary damage.

The best would be to use the truth to help and the sincerity to build, but never to bring down or bring down others.  Let us bear in mind that the truth is a very powerful weapon, that it should not lack empathy and social intelligence.

On the other hand, when we use sincericide, we may use the truth without taking the other person into account, without respecting their person. There are those who do it just to vent, expressing objective realities that hurt at times that are not appropriate.

So, in order not to hurt, do you have to lie? The explanation is not as simple as telling the truth or lying, sometimes a truth is not going to do any good or it will make the situation worse. What we can do best is to communicate what we want to say, but with sensitivity, finding the right moment and context or looking for the best way to do it.

The lie and the good use of the truth

A study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience showed that when we lie, the amygdala, the area that works in our brain when we perform this action, decreases its activation as we tell lies. That is, it becomes desensitized to the repetition of such action.

• With this we can conclude that, by lying, we make our brain relax and get used to not telling the truth.
• However, our role is not to lie, but to learn to select and transmit the truth.
• Our social relationships will not resist too much if we do not put certain filters on what we communicate, regardless of what message we transmit is protected by reality or not.

As we have noted, sincericide does not give us better skills, improve our self-esteem, or help us improve our social relationships.

What does help us is sensitivity; Certain truths must be conveyed with the delicacy with which a feather rests. Others must be kept until the time comes, others must never be shared with us because they are not of great interest and with others we must make a gradual communication, so that the person has time to assimilate it.

Is it good to always tell the truth or is it sincericide?

The psychologist Claudia Castro Campos carried out a cognitive study on lying and stated that throughout the day we tell at least one or two lies. Some are big, others are small, but we use them to transform reality more in our favor.

We know the saying that drunkards and children never lie. This occurs when our brain systems of censorship and inhibition are relaxed, when we are drunk or when we are still very young. In children they do not work at all as in adults, they are forming, but our brain capacity and society prepare us to hide the truth or make up it with the intention of controlling its impact.

Those who have good social skills are those who know how to be sincere, but without hurting. It is not about lying, but about transmitting the information in an appropriate way. 

It is not about being the most sincere person in the world but the one who best communicates the truth. The best thing is to stay true to ourselves without forgetting the damage we can do to others. The truth, transmitted intelligently and motivated by good intention,  will always be productive.

This is undoubtedly an art that not everyone knows how to master. Now, if we make use of Emotional Intelligence, we will find that base from which to structure our behavior and social relationships. We work on it daily.