What To Do With Your Life When You Can’t Find The Right Path?

Do you feel lost? Do not you know what to do with your life? There are people who at a certain moment feel that the direction they are taking is totally meaningless. In fact, no path that they can choose seems to have it and they despair in their countless attempts that fail to achieve a change that takes that feeling. There is no future, there are no goals or objectives. They are lost.

Everyone, at some point we have been those people, we have felt as if we were in a dead end. It is a situation in which we detect, at the same time, a great inner emptiness: nothing outside, little inside. However, although we insist on seeing guilty everywhere, the truth is that we have reached this point and we have entered it.

An opportunity to reconnect with yourself

When you don’t know what to do with your life, when you’ve reached that point where you can’t find a possible way out, it doesn’t matter the anguish, the anxiety, the desire you have to get out of there. None of that is going to work for now. There is something you have to do: find yourself again.

At what point have you put the focus on others and have you forgotten about yourself? When have you stopped wondering what it is you really want to do? Since when did what to do with your life become the last priority? The way of life that we have urges us to put the automatic pilot to act as if we were robots, avoiding being aware of the present moment.

Now that you find yourself in that dead end, where you don’t know what to do with your life, slow down. It is the perfect moment for you to be aware of yourself and what is around you. So that you reconnect with the world and, also, with yourself.

Your desires, your desires, what really motivates you will be present to point out all those goals that you have, but that for a long time you have not wanted to see because you have deviated from the path. You believe that there is no way out, when the solution is within you. Motivation comes from yourself, but for this you have to know what you want.

It is true that at first the reaction when you do not know what to do is to turn around, kick, try to run in all directions as if you were a runaway horse. However, the point has to come where you realize that you must stop in order to be aware of all the above.

If you don’t know what to do with your life, start accepting reality

This is a very important step in order to benefit from all that has been said before. However, it is also likely that you realize that accepting reality has been what has caused you to enter that impasse.

We tend to live with different expectations about how things have to come up. I finish my degree, find a job, then the love of my life with whom I will have children and live very happily. It seems perfect, right? The ideal that many people aspire to. However … what if everything goes wrong?

The expectations you may have do not guarantee that the stations you will find will be those. Most likely, problems, difficulties and adversities will arise that make you frustrated, angry and refuse to accept that on many occasions what happens does not meet your expectations.

When we reach a point of great indecision, it may be time to consult with a professional. With it we will discover if what we have to do is go back to locate the intersection where we got lost or if, on the contrary, the solution is to find more alternatives to move forward at the same intersection where we have stalled. Many times, whether we end up opting for one or the other option will depend on the price we are willing to pay for trying to achieve one or another goal.

There are times more propitious than others for us to experience this existential crisis. Perhaps the first is when we become adults: we have to choose what we want to dedicate ourselves to and how we want our life to be. The second arises in middle age, at 40, with a crisis known to all in which one stage is left behind to begin another.

In many moments of change, in which we go from one stage to another, we can feel lost. Something that is natural and that in principle does not have to scare us. However, if this happens, we have to prevent the feeling of unease from leading us to abandonment. The moments of change are also moments for intelligence and patience, to decide with a head, but also to make the chosen option with security. We choose what we choose, there will be no shortage of people who tell us that we are making mistakes.

Be it backtracking or looking for other alternatives, every situation has a way out. Sometimes logical and predictable, other times surprising, random and enigmatic. For the first, it is worth working, but for the second, as we said before, not letting ourselves be overcome by uneasiness: the most opaque band in the face of opportunities.