How To Protect Ourselves From Toxic People

There are many kinds of toxic people : envious, jealous, possessive, pessimistic, authoritarian, manipulative, etc. with which we have to live every day at work, in a group of friends or in the family. In all areas toxic people can be present.

In us, in our attitude and in knowing how to deal with them is the secret so that they do not influence us negatively. Letting them invade our thoughts and do not let us breathe or let them cause us discomfort is something that if we want, we can avoid. Learn to protect yourself from toxic people.

Feelings caused by toxic people

“ How bad I feel next to him. It makes me feel uncomfortable, I am not myself. I always see a look of suspicion on him. If I comment on the slightest triumph in my life, even in passing and without great fuss, I feel jealous, uncomfortable, annoyed.

I feel that he is not happy about anything that happens to me. I think that he always lives in a kind of competition like little children when they say … “and me more”. And I… I’m letting myself be infected.

The truth is that I feel deeply relieved when she is away. I am myself, I feel happy, I do not have to hide who I am, or the good things that have happened to me today. So how do I do it?

She is not positive for me, but certain common bonds unite us and it is not so easy to get away from her presence. In one way or another it is always present in my life. I think I’m even obsessing over this situation. “

This is the story of a person who is in a relationship with someone who is toxic to them. Fear, insecurity, discomfort, helplessness or sadness are emotions induced by toxic people.

In general, people who are influenced by toxic people or who live with some of them can be invaded by a kind of feeling of overwhelm, impulse and overwhelming discomfort when they are with them … They can even create a certain dependency …

How to let toxic people not influence us

• Stop attaching so much importance to it. Toxic people are there, okay, but are you going to let them spoil your fun time? When you realize that internally it does not affect you, that you handle the situation, you will feel happy with yourself.
• Walk away singing softly. What good are fights or “burning” talking about that person to others? Just forget it ; make your life, walk away singing softly whenever you can and wish him the best.
• Get used to living with them. You will not always be able to get away from these people. They are in your family, in your group of friends, at work. They are there and what? You go to yours, do not enter into polemics or try to fall in grace. Let him say what he wants, do what he wants … meanwhile, you, get close to good people who do not forget that there are also good people around you.

• Be wary of them. Do not tell him your secrets, your things, for that there are already people who are happy for you, who encourage you, who love you.
• Don’t talk about her when she’s not there. The more you talk about it, the more time it will be installed in your head, in your space and in your time. Do you think it’s worth it?
• Forgive her. Do you know the benefits of forgiving others for oneself? Forgive her, it is very possible that some of your headaches or stomachaches will end. Many of our worries are somatized, don’t you think it’s time to look out for yourself and your health? Don’t you think you’re foolishly harming yourself?
• Practice meditation and other forms of liberation. Meditate, walk, listen to music, they are powerful weapons that free our mind from negative thoughts.
• Analyze what toxic people do to you and try to change it. Anger, suspicion, hatred, fear? Be your own psychologist, acknowledge your feelings and do not allow yourself any more. In the end, the one who is suffering and having a hard time is you, don’t you see?

When you really feel that toxic people no longer affect you, you will get to be really happy with yourself and that is what really matters. The ability to be with yourself despite the circumstances …